Margator - welcome to the forum!
And first off, be happy about your purchase. You have purchase the Holy Grail of pocket pistols. It is the smallest, and lightest 9mm oin the planet. And as Yankee said, recoil is manageable. And I am a prime example.
I have nerve damage in both hands, from the tips of both little and ring fingers all the way up to my shoulders. My grip in those two fingers on each hand is that of a 5 year old.
Some guys here say they can only shoot a couple of mags per session, some say one box, some , 50. I've gone 100 and stopped just because I am out of ammo or out of time. I have no problems at ALL.
I'm not bragging, just fact. Maybe it's my background. I shoot competition every weekend and have the training and concentration - I don't know. But, I am not a young big guy. I am 5' 10", medium frame overweight 55yr old man.
If I can do it, most anyone can.
Don't give up.
Would you pass up the chance to drive a Shelby Cobra just because it had 500 HSP?
And besides, if control is a problem, Yankee sells Mag extentions on the classifieds. Members swear by them, as far as the extrta control they get.
Good Luck