RichardS,
Amen!
However, I would also like to stay married once, if ya know what I mean ;D
Indeed I do know what you mean. The lady to whom I have the great good fortune now to be married is a real keeper.
That being said, here's a plan. Get the Seecamp, have a pair of old ivory grips made for it, and then gracefully permit your beloved wife to "requisition" it as her own -- with her own monogrammed holster thrown in as an added touch. All of that should pave the way rather well for the acquisition of your own R9. (It worked for me. 8) )
(http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y30/RichardS/SeecampRohrbaughinHedleyHolsters.jpg)